Confession #CMQ457RF

You only think about whether is fair for you but what about her?? Don’t you know she was like this to began with? You do and you chose to get together with her then complain now because you got her already and you don’t treasure her as much anymore. Is suppose to be understanding from both parties. She is not stopping you and she tries to accommodate to you but do you understand her or from her perspective? Nope. All you do is see the “bad” side or her and complains quite L to be honest

I say this with all the gentleness and honesty I can muster; fucking die in a fire

he’s asking for advice not a fucking scolding bro. It’s not like he’s ungrateful about it

it's fair to leave her

and I’m offering the humbly considered advice of telling him to die in a fire

let someone else have her bro

If u can’t give the clubbing life up, then give her up bro

just wondering are you from kr or sheares?

if u dont want her i'll have her bro

OP: To clarify, I do really treasure her and knows she is wonderful partner , but I expect a partner to be grow interest in what I like to do. I get that she is understanding and accommodating, but I find that she doesn’t find joys in clubbing and drinking which is something I can’t live without.

What kind of degenerate are you to not be able to live without drinking and clubbing? Are you that pathetic?

i think the other comments are a bit extreme, but i understand how you feel. personally i feel that you and your girlfriend dont have to like the same things.

my girlfriend is obsessed with blind boxes. i dont get the appeal and regularly poke fun at her for it. i in the other hand genuinely enjoy my leetcode, and i guarantee that she, a non cs student, will never enjoy reversing her first linked list. (also i get made fun of a lot too) but you don't see me rushing to get blind boxes, or her being forced to implement twosum. and of course i will not stop my leetcode, and she can continue with her blindboxes.

its perfectly fine to be different. it would be nice to have something common that yall enjoy together, but it doesn't need to be club. and you dont need to limit your definition of "adventure" to the club either. hike! join her in her pilates! paint a portrait of each other! etc...

if she doesnt have a problem with you clubbing, and you don't have an issue with her hobbies either, it's a-ok. if you want to continue finding a common ground with her, it doesn't need to be on your terms, or her terms... yall can go out and surprise each other :)

the question is, do you love her? does she love you? if yes to both, then all is good

cheers :)

I lost my girlfriend because I was the party type and she wasn't 2 months ago. If you once said you'll change to make her more secure and happier, but still find yourself partying, then just don't be together.

continued ^^

if you want something more from her, its fine. raise it up with her in a nice, mature way, and let her know she can do the same. but it doesn't need to be clubbing, especially since you've already said you know she is uncomfortable with it - fine, and i hope you don't pigeonhole yourself into thinking that is the only form of adventure around.

but if its a dealbreaker, then you have to decide: do you want to change, or does the relationship need to change? because you can't force her

Least obvious bait

OP: I am seeking advice on how can I make her like clubbing and drinking? I believe it isn’t wrong for her to embrace what I enjoy doing as a partner.
It is not as if I not asking to do illegal things like vaping etc

to OP

I think just break up bro, can you imagine if you girlfriend likes to travel to do painting, will you be willing to sit down every saturday afternoon and do paintings with her because she wants to change you to enjoy what she enjoy

OP: oh no my steak is too juicy and lobster too buttery. I wish I had a porkchop or lambchop instead cuz Im so adventurous

Rage bait fr

OP: Yes, I accompany her for pilates session sometimes. I try to embrace what she likes, and I asking the same for her, isn’t that too much?

OP: The above post is not by me

are y’all happily together or just together 😁

OP: We are quite happy together. I won’t lie that I need the physical intimacy and she has always able to satisfy my needs

OP needs to be clear on whether u just wish she enjoys drinking and clubbing or that u need a partner that is adventurous. If former u might grow out of it or find others that u can enjoy it with, at least personally I don’t think it’s fun to drink and clubbing with people that dislikes to do so and I don’t think it’s very easy to change peoples opinion on these 2 things through external force, they themselves would need to want to club and drink themselves. If latter then u might need to let her go…

some people really make clubbing and drinking their whole personality

i think u don’t love her as much as you think u do tbf

maybe try growing an interest in what she likes??? she clearly comes out w u and does stuff even if she doesnt enjoy it, thats more than should even b expected. Look at other areas of ur life and other hobbeis u have and find other things to bond over jeez