tbh in general i feel like people often mix up what “bare minimum” means. there’s different levels to it, like first there’s bare minimum of being a decent friend, e.g. speaking kindly, setting aside time for the friendship, being there for each other. and then there’s bare minimum for being a partner, e.g. having a basic level of respect, consistency, and effort put into the person and the relationship, communication/reliability/emotional availability/loyalty and so on
then there’s “bare minimum” in terms of being a good boyfriend/girlfriend… which varies greatly from person to person. idt there is a “one size fits all” good bf/gf, bc it really depends on what their needs are. some girls may like you constantly accompanying her/texting her, whereas other girls might prefer quality time instead of being around for the sake of it. some girls want their meals/beauty maintenance to be paid in ‘exchange’ for being a gf, whereas others just want to feel loved, to know that you want to take care of them.
at the end of the day every relationship is different, but net-net should be positive for both parties. if a girl is asking for sth you’re not happy abt/dw to give, then find someone else. i mean you can’t exactly control what people want or are looking for right? and tbh if u expect them to fit your ‘ideal’ then isn’t that also you imposing your own expectations on others for your own sake e.g. “girls nowadays talk too much, want too much and expect too much while giving nothing in return” or “bare minimum for a girl is being a good mother”
also if expectations mismatch keeps happening maybe it’s time to re-evaluate 1) what you’re attracted to 2) if you yourself are even attractive? idk abt you but seeing a guy calling other girls “ungrateful brats” or “really cmi” is extremely unattractive, like yes maybe that girl is ungrateful but the way you talk speaks volumes abt you